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Setting Rules and Consequences

Kids want freedom. You don’t want to be a nag. But when you’ve discovered drug or alcohol use, all bets are off. The time has come to set tighter limits and clear consequences.

Lay Down Rules

Rules provide a concrete way to help your kids understand what you expect and learn self–control. Don’t just assume that they “know” you don’t want them to drink or do drugs. Teens don’t deal well with gray areas, so when they’re offered alcohol or drugs, you don’t want any confusion in their minds.

Dr. Neil Bernstein offers tips on things parents can expect when setting limits

Marybeth Hicks discusses the differences between setting high standards and the pressure we put on our kids.

Trust is something that your child must earned advices Dr. Drew

Set limits and rules that are realistic and enforceable urges Ken Winters, Ph.D.

Set Firm Consequences

Setting firm consequences for when your rules are broken is actually a help to your teenager, making it clear what they are to do and not to do. (A no-use policy, for example.) And though it may not seem like it, rules are a way of showing you care.

Teenagers appreciate it when their parents are parenting discusses Ken Winters, Ph.D.

Dr. Neil Bernstein has suggestions on setting effective consequences.

Write a Contract with Your KidsBecause teenagers are more likely to follow guidelines they help create, get together to design rules and consequences that work for you both. Then consider putting the details in writing to make sure you’re on the same page (now and in the future). Use the sample contract below as a guide to establish rules about drugs and alcohol.

CREATE A CONTRACT

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