I was not the mother who believed I would ever sit down to write the story of her son's death. But I am forced into the realization.. I am that mother now.

The same mother who took her baby to D.A.R.E classes at school. Who expounded on the attainability of happiness from one's own inner beauty. The mother who lectured endlessly about the dangers of drugs..."drugs kill baby". They kill.

On July 12th, 2007 my beautiful son Dallas died of an accidental heroin overdose. He was 19 years old. Three months away from his 20th birthday. To most people my son was just another statistic in America. An endless statistic. But statistics are numbers. They are not names or faces, not loves or joys, beauties or dreams. Statistics are not remembered for their worth in the world.

Dallas was an amazing human being. He was so compassionate to others -- the underdog, the homeless and the lost. He was kind. Gentle in his soul, never quick to judge a person or assume of their circumstance. I could not have been more proud of the human being he had become. Looking back, I could not sit here today and say that any one defining thing in my life, other than being his mother, has ever given me more happiness and blessing. Dallas was an old soul. But he was a kid. Just a beautiful kid, who drifted down the wrong road one day and could not find his way back. The demon which found him as that vulnerable kid, pursued him relentlessly. It gnawed at him, made him loathe himself for what he was doing and what he had become. But always he was, who he ever was deep inside, under the smothering weight of his addiction. I ask myself and others, how can a soul so deep and beautiful ever find that door that opens, that will irretrievably alter a life forever? It is an epidemic of inconsolable loss.

It is hard enough for adults to battle addiction, what a monumental, almost insurmountable burden of pain and bewilderment it is for kids. People have told me that he wasn't a baby anymore, that he had free will to make that choice each time he did heroin. Knowing the risk of death. But what is free will in the face of such a demon? Dallas, like so many youth, believed in his protection of invincibility. Addiction is not take it or leave it. It is take it or die, to the one addicted. And to so many addicted kids, they cannot get the help they need in the very programs that are designed to help them. There are financial obstacles, waiting lists that can be as long as 6 months, there may be a lack of support systems at home, and the stigma of "the junkie". The list goes on and on. The deaths go on and on. I want my beautiful baby's life to mean more than his death!

Dallas leaves behind three brothers, a sister, a father, an aunt and two uncles, grandparents, cousins, friends who loved him like a brother, all the people he touched in his life including the stranger.. and me. He leaves behind dreams and goals. Dallas was a self taught musician who was on the verge of realizing his dream of starting his own band here in Seattle. He was one of the truly gifted. I can't rest thinking that he would be known as just another statistic.. "just another junkie".

A junkie is not a beautiful kid who wanted to live and love, dream and sing, draw and write. A junkie, is not a brother who listened to your problems and comforted you. Talked to you after a nightmare and through a bad day.