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Daughter Stealing Pills
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I suspect my daughter (or possibly her friends) have been stealing painkillers from my medicine cabinet. (I had surgery last fall and had several bottles of pills leftover.) What’s the best way to confront her about this?
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Snowboarder_mom | 11/14/2008 12:02 PM
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It's known that my son's friend has been buying and using pot. I found out recently that my son (age 16) tried pot with him. Should I have a talk with my son's friend's parents?
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mtherapist | 11/13/2008 9:47 PM
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In Reply To: Concerned for my sister
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Hi, if your sister can get treatment sooner than later the better off she will and your family. I can relate to your story because my sister acts the same way except my sister is 38. She is bi-polar with a long history of drugs and alcohol.
A family intervention may help because your sister might not know she really has a problem but everyone is different, I just know that government paid recovery programs don't work as well as programs that are paid out of pocket.
Just hope and pray for your sister. Her changing her association is key, if she's around drug users or drinkers she will follow, it works that way in any relationships we have throughout our lives because the people we associate with today makes us who we are later in life.
Hope this helps.
Marc
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sarahniccole | 11/12/2008 8:56 PM
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My 19 year old sister has had a lot of problems the past few years. She's the youngest of 4 kids and we were all brought up the same way with good morals and values. Out of all of us, she has been the only one to experiment with drugs. Nothing too crazy as far as I know...but she had an older boyfriend a few years ago (he was 25 she was 17...) and he got her hooked on smoking pot. The last 2 years have been a nightmare with her and the rest of the family (myself included) thinks that she may have some kind of mental problem that she may need to get medicated for. Basically, she hates her life. She talks about suicide. We all tell her how much we love and care for her but she has this illusion that we all hate her. She hates herself and seems to hate everyone in her life. She is very violent and breaks things. She throws tantrums and will do crazy things like run away and go sleep in a grocery store parking lot or run off into the woods. When she gets angry she starts screaming and cursing and crying and ripping her hair out. SHe is now smoking pot on a daily basis. She doesnt have a job so I worry about how she might be paying for the weed. She has been violent with her boyfriend and even had some witnesses call the cops on her because she was attacking him in a parking lot. She needs help but I dont know how to get her to see that she needs it! She sees the world very differently from normal people and thinks everyone is out to get her. I think she may be bi-polar because of her horrific mood swings and her depression. She shows all the signs. Her psyciatrist cannot prescribe her any kind of medication until she stops smoking pot. And my brother just informed me today that he caught her looking up online how to snort Dramamine. She's been talking too about wanting to deal drugs now. Im scared for her but I dont know know I can help her. If anyone has any advice please help!
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mtherapist | 11/2/2008 11:32 PM
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My sister lost her son to a terrible accident in 1998, I couldn't imagine losing my own child. My sister never really greaved over her loss, shortly after she got into meth and alcohol abuse. She has hepatitis c from drinking so much, she's been in and out of rehabs and just gets worse when she gets out. she had another son who is 4 years old now and because of her bad decision making her son is being put into a foster home. I try to help her by giving advise and letting her know I'm here to help her but she lies so much to me and the family it makes it hard for me to trust her to want the help. When I knock some sense into her head she tells me she wants help when the advise is given she takes it and then a half hour later it's not grasped around her brain anymore, she goes into this fog and erases everything that was told to her. My sister is unwilling to change her association and has a family who adds fuel to her alcohol abuse, any advise that hasn't been said yet in the past 10 years? I don't want to be the hero of the family... I just want my family back.
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marohde | 10/30/2008 10:20 PM
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My mom has been sick with a chronic illness for 25 years. She recently got a rare, extremely difficult to treat infection in the hospital during a routine hernia repair. It was so bad they had to cut much of her stomach away to get rid of the infection. She had home health care for 6 months, and still has the infection. She got a little better for a period, but now she is not the same person anymore. I am married and don't live at home anymore. But my dad and brother, who do, are scared she is going to hurt herself. They keep finding her passed out in odd places. She stays up until 3am and walks around like a zombie doing strange things she doesn't remember the next day. She removed all of the family pictures from the walls, and simply says she was tired of looking at the same things when asked. She won't answer the phone. She never calls or emails me anymore. She is doing this with everyone. I go to check on her, and her speach is always slurred and she doesn't speak much. She rarely gets dressed and looks very weak. She has fallen several times in the middle of the night and woken my dad or my brother up. She is down to 90+ pounds because I think she is only eating around one meal a day and is falling to sleep around 3am and sleeping to 6pm or so. I believe she is abusing her ambien, her muscle relaxers and possibly her pain meds. My dad recently tried to get my mom to let him accompany her inside a doctor's appointment so he could bring these things up. My mom threatened to run away if he said anything about the ambien because she needs it to sleep, yet she denies it is an issue. My brother has asked her why he has found her passed out, and she says she "got a little off" on her muscle relaxers. Her doctor has recently prescribed anti-depressants ,and it has helped a small amount as far as her communication. She has emailed me once since, and showed up to one family event. That was huge progress. At this point, I don't know if I should give the anti-depressant more time to work (Its only been 2-3 weeks) or if we should get her other treatment. Sometimes she says she wants help, sometimes she only wants certain types of help. I'm not sure what I can do...
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vmt7315 | 10/30/2008 2:03 PM
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My husband and I have both had discussions with our son reminding him that these early choices will affect and possibly take over his young adult life. Experiementing is one thing regular use is another....Where can I find local community sponsered programs/seminars on Teen Drug Experimentation?
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amessmitty | 10/30/2008 12:36 PM
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I recently confronted my younger sister, (she's 25, I'm 27) about abusing drugs, specifically opiates (prescription drugs). She did admit she has a problem, and we have discussed a plan for her to get help. She has been dead set against me telling my parents. She lives in Philly and we live in Maine, I feel she needs a loving support system that I know we can be for her. She is currently a dating an older fellow (age3 30-31?) and I believe he is also a user. She states he "only" smokes marijuana, yet at my wedding they both acted extremely strange and I fear they are supporting eahcothers habits.
I am extremely concerned, she recently got a new job where she has health insurance, it kicks in next week. I explained to her I think she needs to be up front and honest with her doctor so together they can seek out the correct treatment for her.
I have also explained to her I believe she needs to find a mental health counselor to provide support because other than her boyfriend (whom I believe is an enabler) is her only "support" in Philly. Am I doing the right thing by giving her the benefit of the doubt that she is going to seek help and hold back telling my parents? She told me she has too much pride and cannot imagine my partents knowing...and I told her I think she should for extra support, yet she stated she would be so mad at me that she wouldn't know when she would talk to me again.
I just found out my husband and I are expecting our first child, we are thrilled, yet my heart is deeply hurting for my sister and I feel she has put a large burden on me that I am carrying. I want to support her but I feel as though this problem is too big for her to tackle on her own...please help...I love my sister and fear for her health and safety daily!
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dankindseth | 10/28/2008 10:55 PM
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I think a major thing you left out is her age. She may be doing it just to seem cool. I would hide the pills and count them. If she is searching for them you might have more of a problem. As a former addict myself I still take painkillers for fun on occassion, so I don't think it's that big of a deal. Whatever you do don't listen to some one who immediately thinks your daughter has a problem.
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Kyle20080 | 10/27/2008 2:55 AM
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So our neighbor's have a 9-year old handicapped girl in a wheel chair who was prescribed vicodin shortly after her surgery. My neighbor's told me that she was affraid that the girl who has been babysitting he daughter has been stealing her pills in the past for klonopin.
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iamnightsky | 10/19/2008 2:25 PM
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I am a 24 year old woman who has a 22 year old brother. My family is dysfunctional but loving, divorced parents but both are still here and have been all our lives. My brother has had a rough adolesence, getting involved with bad people, criminal activity and, we think, drug abuse. We have never seen him doing them or buying them, and he has never been in trouble with the law for them. He has luckily ceased criminal activity and has kept a steady job but lately, this is declining. He's 6'3 and weighs maybe 120 pounds; he's losing teeth, they're rotting right out of his mouth. I've seen the balloons and tin foil burned in lines in his room, but he denies he's doing anything. He gets sick very easily and has recently stopped caring about his personal hygene. He lives with my mother and she says he barely showers. Recently, my mother began dating for the first time in 20 years and I believe this has set my brother on a fast downward spiral, as he and my mother are very close and spent a lot of time together.
I am pretty much the parent in my family. I've been trying for over a year to get my parents to intervene and help my brother because I know if we don't, he will die, and they refused to admit he could be doing drugs, and basically said "well we can't do anything, what are we supposed to do?" I feel completely helpless. Thankfully, my mother has finally come around and wants to plan an intervention for him, but as usual she is leaving it entirely up to me and not taking responsibility to plan it, only willingness to participate (which is better than nothing).
I will do anything I can to save my brother, but I feel like I've just been thrown into an icy lake; I have no idea how to plan an intervention, or what I should be doing. I know if I don't plan it, it will never happen and he will die, so I feel an immense amount of pressure to not fail at this. My brother also has a terrible temper which makes me nervous.
I thought about having the intervention at my house (across the city from where my brother lives) so that he can't just drive off or retreat to his room, and of course inviting who I can to attend. Beyond that I have no clue. He's a legal adult so we cannot force him into rehab, nor has he had any trouble with the law since he was a juvenile.
Please help!
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