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Daughter Stealing Pills
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I suspect my daughter (or possibly her friends) have been stealing painkillers from my medicine cabinet. (I had surgery last fall and had several bottles of pills leftover.) What’s the best way to confront her about this?
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donyad38 | 12/4/2008 4:39 AM
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I want you to know that my family had went through the same thing with my best friend/cousin, my mother's nephew. That will destroy her liver quickly and often times is a gateway drug. We had taken him to rehab many times because he abused anything and everything. Well the last night I spent with him was January 30,2008 and he always told me what he had taken but not that night. I loved the time I spent with him, but to be woke up by my husband to tell me our best friend had died of an overdose was heartbreaking and devastating. We are still grieving this intense loss, myself and my children. Force your sister to stop enabling if possible, and remember that if they don't want to stop, rehab is pointless. My cousin truly loved drugs and that was his escape from the real world. I pray that your niece can see that she is destroying her life completely and will die from either an overdose or liver failure due to the massive amounts of tylenol in Vicodin. All of my prayers are with you and your family, Donya
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meggidawn | 12/3/2008 1:52 PM
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I am recently married and my husband is addicted to drugs (cocaine and percocet) and gambling. He hid it before we were married and now he has completely drained all of our money on online poker. He lost his job and refuses to work. I have tried to get him help, but we now have no money since he has spent it all. I don't know where to turn. He has shunned his family, my family and most of his non-drug addict friends. He doesn't believe treatment programs work and refuses to go to one, although we couldn't afford it if he did finally seek help. Are there sponsorship programs available? How do I find out about these programs? We have no health insurance coverage and this has all spiraled out of control within the last few months so I don't know if our income would qualify us. We have two small children from different parents and I am trying to hold our family together. He needs help and I need help. I love him and want the best for him and I can not leave him. I don't know how much longer either of us can go on with our lives like this.
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VeraGee | 11/22/2008 9:07 AM
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In Reply To: RE: Concerned for my sister
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I disagree with Marc in one sense. It doesn't matter whether it's a Celebrity SPA or a state hospital. Sobriety is more than superficial surroundings. You have to take that first step in realizing you have a problem and that your life is out of control. Once either by your own epiphany or through intervention, this 1st. step is reached, even a small 1 hour session in the rooms of AA can change your life. Yes, I am clean 16 years but I am just like everyone else. I have "One day at a time!"
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VeraGee | 11/22/2008 9:00 AM
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Your daughter is going to go for drugs if that is her choice no matter how you advise her. I did. The only thing you can do is not be part of the problem by leaving drugs in a medicine chest. They should be no where to be found. If it takes outside help to help her, just be sure to be there to go with the process and lend your support. Remember, the day you gave her birth, you owed her so it's what's best for her not you. The worst thing you could do is to desert her when she has an illness. You wouldn't do it if she had cancer or diabetes, would you? Good Luck and Bless.
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amybtrfly | 11/21/2008 9:23 PM
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14 Months ago, I hit my bottom and entered recovery for the first and God Willing the last time. It is a "One Day at a Time" Process that can not be done alone, or without the proper guidance. My suggestion to you is to find a support group in your area. There are so many across the United States and around the country. Alanon, Naranon are two off the top of my head. I pray for you and your daughter
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Marydks12@gmail.com | 11/21/2008 12:59 AM
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In Reply To: My son's friend is using pot
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I think you definitely should talk with them and try to prevent something you do not want to happen. I know from my own experience that I jumped off that stuff early on. I was a pregnant teen that got pregnant at the age of fifteen and did not know what to do. I isolated myself and didn't know what to do. I finally decided to have the baby and it was the best thing I could do! I love my daughter to death and I would never change my mind. I finished high school and went on to do school.
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hillbillyheroin | 11/19/2008 9:08 PM
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My life has gone by and I have never seen a day since I was13 when drugs weren't in my body. I have tried detox 37 times but they can't get me completely clean. I have gotten down as low as 3 10/325's a day, I just can't pass that amount. Growing up with 3 pins in each hip and chronic nerve damage in my back from L1-L3-L5, I have had many slipped disks. Pain seems to effect my brain, although I am a strong willed person. Last year I almost gave up and sat home. I was traveling to the doctor twice a month in the back of a pickup truck, laying on my stomach in massive pain. I was taking 400 perk 10/325, 100, perk 5/325, 200 muscle relaxants and 80 5mg valium each month for about 7 years. Recently I have been reading and trying to wean myself off, having no real shot at treatment like with Dr Drew I have it down to 4 perk 10/325 and 4 muscle relaxants and 2 valiums a day, for me that almost quitting. I cry sometimes because since 1969 I have never been sober. I just wish I could wake up one day and have God tell me, "It is over son, your clean." I am 53 and very sad that I missed the best years of my life in a trance.
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Snowboarder_mom | 11/14/2008 12:02 PM
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It's known that my son's friend has been buying and using pot. I found out recently that my son (age 16) tried pot with him. Should I have a talk with my son's friend's parents?
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mtherapist | 11/13/2008 9:47 PM
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In Reply To: Concerned for my sister
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If your sister can get treatment sooner rather than later, she and your family will be better off. I can relate to your story because my sister acts the same way, except my sister is 38. She is bi-polar with a long history of drugs and alcohol. A family intervention may help because your sister might not know she really has a problem. But, everyone is different. I just know that government paid recovery programs don't work as well as programs that are paid out of pocket. Just hope and pray for your sister. Her changing her association is key. If she's around drug users or drinkers she will follow. It works that way in any relationships we have throughout our lives because the people we associate with today makes us who we are later in life. Hope this helps. Marc
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sarahniccole | 11/12/2008 8:56 PM
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My 19 year old sister has had a lot of problems the past few years. She's the youngest of 4 kids and we were all brought up the same way, with good morals and values. Out of all of us, she has been the only one to experiment with drugs. Nothing too crazy as far as I know. She had an older boyfriend a few years ago (he was 25 she was 17) and he got her hooked on smoking pot. The last 2 years have been a nightmare with her. My family (myself included) thinks that she may have some kind of mental problem that she may need to get medicated for. Basically, she hates her life. She talks about suicide. We all tell her how much we love and care for her but she has this illusion that we all hate her. She hates herself and seems to hate everyone in her life. She is very violent and breaks things. She throws tantrums and will do crazy things like run away and go sleep in a grocery store parking lot or run off into the woods. When she gets angry she starts screaming and cursing and crying and ripping her hair out. She is now smoking pot on a daily basis. She doesn't have a job so I worry about how she might be paying for the weed. She has been violent with her boyfriend and even had some witnesses call the cops on her because she was attacking him in a parking lot. She needs help but I don't know how to get her to see that she needs it! She sees the world very differently from normal people and thinks everyone is out to get her. I think she may be bipolar because of her horrific mood swings and her depression. She shows all the signs. Her psychiatrist cannot prescribe her any kind of medication until she stops smoking pot. My brother just informed me today that he caught her looking up online how to snort Dramamine. She's been talking too about wanting to deal drugs now. I'm scared for her but I don't know how I can help her. If anyone has any advice, please help!
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