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Daughter Stealing Pills
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I suspect my daughter (or possibly her friends) have been stealing painkillers from my medicine cabinet. (I had surgery last fall and had several bottles of pills leftover.) What’s the best way to confront her about this?
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donyad38 | 12/4/2008 4:39 AM
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In Reply To: MY NIECE NEEDS HELP!
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I want you to know that my family had went through the same thing with my best friend/cousin, my mother's nephew. That will destroy her liver quickly and often times is a gateway drug. We had taken him to rehab many times because he abused anything and everything. Well the last night I spent with him was January 30,2008 and he always told me what he had taken but not that night, and I loved the time I spent with him, but to be woke up by my husband to tell me our best friend had died of an overdose was heartbreaking and devasting, we are still greiving this intense loss myself and my children. Force your sister to stop enabling if possible, and remember that if they don't want to stop, rehab is pointless. My cousin truly loved drug and that was his escape from the real world. I pray that your niece can see that she is destroying her life completely and will die from either an overdose or liver failure due to the massive amounts of tylenol in Vicodin. All of my prayers are with you and your family, Donya
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meggidawn | 12/3/2008 1:52 PM
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I am recently married and my husband is addicted to drugs (cocaine and percocet) and gambling. He hid it before we were married and now he has completely drained all of our money on online poker, lost his job and refuses to work.
I have tried to get him help but we now have no money since he has spent it all so now I don't know where to turn. He has shunned his family, my family and most of his non-drug addict friends. He doesnt believe treatment programs work and refuses to go to one, although we couldn't afford it if he did finally seek help.
Are there sponsorship programs available? How do I find out about these programs? We have no health insurance coverage and this has all spiraled out of control within the last few months so I don't know if our income would qualify us.
We have two small children from different parents and I am trying to hold our family together. He needs help and I need help. I love him and want the best for him and I can not leave him. I don't know how much longer either of us can go on with our lives like this.
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gdmellott | 12/3/2008 12:32 AM
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In Reply To: Oppression
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Hi, You need to seriously consider the reality that your brain, which you are playing with is your primary defense system, much less what is driving you forward in you life to enable you to be an benefit to those around you. I have to admit that I never really appreciated any pulls on my life that tried to make me more confused our out of control, so I never got into drugs. Even a little too much beer was not liked.
Personally, I tend to think that present culture is not running the best. Part of it may be because money is not doing its intended function. It is intended to represent a compensation for an endeavor that generates a beneficial result. Ideally there is really two basic types of endeavors in t this realm. 1) The provision of resources that can be cultivated. 2) The cultivation process to make the resources (more) useful.
Ideally, our present monetary system can be abused so that the beneficial state is not assured and even causing states where some parties are taking cultivationally 'earned' funds to obtain resources that might be better used by others. An ideal goal, perhaps never fully achievable would be to address why resources are not in reasonable balance per person. There are a zillion reasons, but it puts our minds in the proper frame of reference to get us started in trying to cultivate each others lives in the best way possible. It also put the mind of the party of concern upon a focus that ties to reality. The reality that not only effects them, but also all they might be able to benefited by being a more cultivating entity, no matter what level of development they may be in any given area of their life.
A system that uses records that are then able to reviewed by even 'institutions' with competing perspectives, could add their view of the actual value that is generated. These would keep the system checking on how well things are going and perhaps generating new solutions they consider of value for the future they see as possible. And then let it be addressed by those with concerns of where that may error. You buy into what you things works best, just as you do now. You would just likely more informed, and more enabled with realistic potentials
Let's not waste the most valuable resources we have available to us, our minds.
Sincerely, Gregory D. MELLOT
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jojo0823 | 12/1/2008 8:53 PM
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My niece is going to be 27 years old and she is addicited to Vicodin. She is on probation for writing scripts and I now find out that is she using again. Stealing from family members. I love her very much an try my hardest to be supportive. I am struggling at this point because I feel that she is destroying herself as well as everyone around her. My sister tends to enable and believes her when she tells her that she is not high. I on the other hand can see right through it because I am not living under foot. I know this is not any easy situation for anyone who has a family member who has this disease, I just need some help as to what I should do next. She had been to 2 rehabs and at time jokes about them. I want to take her and shake her and make her realize her true potential but I know that it not a sensible thing to do. She is now stealing from her sister which is causing so many problems within the household. My sister tends to defend her and my other niece is feeling that she has to live like a caged animal with her room locked and her stuff all put away. Please if anyone has any suggestions I would welcome them
I love her so!
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isabella joy | 11/27/2008 11:35 PM
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In Reply To: My son's friend is using pot
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IF THAT IS ALL HIS IS DOING UR LUCKY. MARIJUANA IS LEGAL IN SOME STATES AND DOES NOT CAUSE WITHDRAWELS. i KNOW VERY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE WHOM CHOOSE MARIJUANA OVER ALCOHOL AND OTHER STUFF. MOSY PHYSICIANS APPROVE OF IT AFTER ALL IT HELPS CANCER PATIENTS...TO BAD OUR COUNTRY STILL THINKS BAD ,KNOWING ALL ALONG THAT TOCACCO KILLS AS WELL AS DRINKING AND DRIVING BUT IT IS LEGAL..GO USA..GET EDUCATED AND IF THAT IS ALL HE IS DOING BE BLESSED....iF U TELL THE PARENT THEY MOST LIKELY WILL BE OFFENDED..
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VeraGee | 11/22/2008 9:07 AM
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In Reply To: RE: Concerned for my sister
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I dissagree with Marc in one sense. It doesn't matter whether it's a Celebrity SPA or a state hospital. Sobriety is more than superficial surroundings. You have to take that first step in realizing you have a problem and that your life is out of control. Once either by your own epiphany or through intervention, this 1st. step is reached, even a small 1 hour session in the rooms of AA can change your life. Yes, I am clean 16 years but I am just like everyone else. I have "One day at a time!"
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VeraGee | 11/22/2008 9:00 AM
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In Reply To: RE: Can't stay out of state custody
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Your daughter is going to go for drugs if that is her choice no matter how you advise her. I did. The only thing you can do is not be part of the problem by leaving drugs in a medicine chest. They should be no where to be found. If it takes outside help to help her, just be sure to be there to go with the process and lend your support. Remember, the day you gave her birth, you owed her so it's what's best for her not you. The worst thing you could do is to desert her when she has an illness. You wouldn't do it if she had cancer or diabetes, would you? Good Luck and Bless.
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amybtrfly | 11/21/2008 9:23 PM
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14 Months ago, I hit my bottom and entered recovery for the first and G-d Willing the last time. It is a One Day at a Time Process that can not be done alone, or without the proper guidance. My suggestion to you is to find a support group in your area. There are so many across the United States and around the country. Alanon, Naranon are two off the top of my head. I pray for you and your daughter
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Marydks12@gmail.com | 11/21/2008 12:59 AM
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In Reply To: My son's friend is using pot
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i think definately u should talk w them in preventing something u dont want but i know 4 me that some stuff jumped off early on. i was a pregnant teen that got pregnant @ the age of fifteen and did not know what to do. i isolated myself and didnt know what 2 do i finally decided 2 have the baby and it was the best thing i could do! i love my daurther 2 death and i would never change my mind i finished high school and went on 2 do school and my husband adopting me
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hillbillyheroin | 11/19/2008 9:08 PM
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My life has gone by and ihave never seen a day since 13 when drugs weren't in my body, ihave tried detox 37 times but they can't get my completely clean, ihave gotten down as low as 3 10/325's a day, I just can't pass that amount, growing up with 3 pins in each hip and cronic nerve damage in my back from L1-L3-L5, ihave had many slipped disks.
Pain seems to effect my brain, although I am a strong willed person, last year I almost gave up and sat home, I was traveling to the doctor twice a month in the back of a pickup truck, laying on my stomach in massive pain, i was taking 400 perk 10/325, 100, perk 5/325, 200 muscle relaxants and 80 5mg valium each month for about 7 years, recently i have been reading and trying to ween myself off, having no real shot at treatment like with Dr Drew I have it down to 4 perk 10/325 and 4 muscle relaxants and 2 valiums a day, for me that almost quiting.
I cry sometimes because since 1969 I have never been sober, I just wish I could wake up one day and have God tell me, its over son, your clean, I am 53 and very sad that I missed the best years of my life in a trance.
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