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Daughter Stealing Pills
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I suspect my daughter (or possibly her friends) have been stealing painkillers from my medicine cabinet. (I had surgery last fall and had several bottles of pills leftover.) What’s the best way to confront her about this?
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BEAUTYFUL slow process | 2/29/2008 3:38 AM
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In Reply To: Can't stay out of state custody
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She probably won't respond to self help books.And I really feel sorry for you that where you are the State is just letting your daughter slowly but surely kill herself.One thing i've learned from being clean 8yrs. is that DRUGS are in all of our city,states and countries.DRUG ADDICTION is world wide.Here's a suggestion you are already there The Partnership For A Drugfree America call the toll free number and find out where the recovery cneters are and the Narcotics of America (N/A) is the name for short.A nd ask for the help that you need for your daughter and yourself.Sh's covering some pain up that she feels she just can't deal with.B ut guess what she isn't as weak as you think she is.She can handle the truth what ever it maybe.Because DRUG ADDICTION effects every body the drug user come in contact with and DRUG ADDITION effects everybody that enables an addictict to use.ADDICTION of any kind hurts because there's so many degrees of separation.An ADDICT can't use socialably we don't know how our addictive personality won't permit us to.Whether it be shopping,smoking,eating or not eating our brain don't have bounderies,if for some awakening reason we do stop it's because we're close to jails instituions or death.I don't know what her pain is but I can garanteee you that we both endured some kind of pain that felt the same.We found a way to cover it up,bury it deep down in our souls.Continue to fight for her and hopefuly you'll get the much needed help in time.
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savehernow | 2/17/2008 12:02 PM
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My daughter became an alcoholic at 14 , was raped as a virgin at 15 by an employer, began using drugs at 16 including anything she could get her hands on. We took her to a 90 day rehab and she was asked to leave after 1 week, she became so addicted to Meth and Pot and began steeling and selling everything she could from her Dad and I, we have 5 daughters and have been married for 32 years and she was the only daughter still at home. Dad kicked her out of the house as she became very violent. I didn't want her on the streets so after she lived on the couch of a friend for a month I rented her an apartment, bought new furniture, groceries, phone and prayer she would finish high school and she got a job at dept store. She had been in jail by this time 2 times for assault during her drunk rages, once for assault on an officer. She was evicted from the apartment after 3 weeks and lost her job. How stupid was I, she just had a great place to party with her undesirable friends. Again I rented a much lower end place to keep her off the street. I know it was probably wrong but it let me sleep knowing she had shelter and food. Selfish of me yes but I felt like I was loosing my mind. Of course tension at home was terrible and her older sisters were so upset. More jail another assault on an officer, many many visits to the ER for alcohol black outs, ate a bottle of aspirin and had to me flown to a medical facility for treatment an evaluation. finally got her high school diploma at 20, held a good job for several years, got married and even though she was taking pres. drugs for bipolar disorder (had been treated by 2 psychiatrists and several councilors, she seemed on tract. Then she had a miscarriage and was prescribed vicodin and her depression came back really bad. She told me 2 years later she had been addicted to oxycontin, morphine,vicodin and needed help. I see her everyday and had no clue. For the last 9 months she has been in a suboxone treatment program and we travel 3 hours to her doctor for appointments and counseling. Now I just found out for the last month she has been abusing the pres meds, buying morphine, meth and her husband is doing it with her. They decided to divorce last night as her found her cheating on him with a drug dealer. She is a beautiful girl was a straight A student, is very intelligent, lives in a very nice home, that we own and they rent, has a good job and is going to school, has lots of family support and LOVE. I feel like I'm living someone elses nightmare but reality it is ours...our family. Please help with any advise.
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Snowboarder_mom | 11/14/2008 12:02 PM
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It's known that my son's friend has been buying and using pot. I found out recently that my son (age 16) tried pot with him. Should I have a talk with my son's friend's parents?
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mtherapist | 11/13/2008 9:47 PM
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In Reply To: Concerned for my sister
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Hi, if your sister can get treatment sooner than later the better off she will and your family. I can relate to your story because my sister acts the same way except my sister is 38. She is bi-polar with a long history of drugs and alcohol.
A family intervention may help because your sister might not know she really has a problem but everyone is different, I just know that government paid recovery programs don't work as well as programs that are paid out of pocket.
Just hope and pray for your sister. Her changing her association is key, if she's around drug users or drinkers she will follow, it works that way in any relationships we have throughout our lives because the people we associate with today makes us who we are later in life.
Hope this helps.
Marc
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sarahniccole | 11/12/2008 8:56 PM
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My 19 year old sister has had a lot of problems the past few years. She's the youngest of 4 kids and we were all brought up the same way with good morals and values. Out of all of us, she has been the only one to experiment with drugs. Nothing too crazy as far as I know...but she had an older boyfriend a few years ago (he was 25 she was 17...) and he got her hooked on smoking pot. The last 2 years have been a nightmare with her and the rest of the family (myself included) thinks that she may have some kind of mental problem that she may need to get medicated for. Basically, she hates her life. She talks about suicide. We all tell her how much we love and care for her but she has this illusion that we all hate her. She hates herself and seems to hate everyone in her life. She is very violent and breaks things. She throws tantrums and will do crazy things like run away and go sleep in a grocery store parking lot or run off into the woods. When she gets angry she starts screaming and cursing and crying and ripping her hair out. SHe is now smoking pot on a daily basis. She doesnt have a job so I worry about how she might be paying for the weed. She has been violent with her boyfriend and even had some witnesses call the cops on her because she was attacking him in a parking lot. She needs help but I dont know how to get her to see that she needs it! She sees the world very differently from normal people and thinks everyone is out to get her. I think she may be bi-polar because of her horrific mood swings and her depression. She shows all the signs. Her psyciatrist cannot prescribe her any kind of medication until she stops smoking pot. And my brother just informed me today that he caught her looking up online how to snort Dramamine. She's been talking too about wanting to deal drugs now. Im scared for her but I dont know know I can help her. If anyone has any advice please help!
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mtherapist | 11/2/2008 11:32 PM
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My sister lost her son to a terrible accident in 1998, I couldn't imagine losing my own child. My sister never really greaved over her loss, shortly after she got into meth and alcohol abuse. She has hepatitis c from drinking so much, she's been in and out of rehabs and just gets worse when she gets out. she had another son who is 4 years old now and because of her bad decision making her son is being put into a foster home. I try to help her by giving advise and letting her know I'm here to help her but she lies so much to me and the family it makes it hard for me to trust her to want the help. When I knock some sense into her head she tells me she wants help when the advise is given she takes it and then a half hour later it's not grasped around her brain anymore, she goes into this fog and erases everything that was told to her. My sister is unwilling to change her association and has a family who adds fuel to her alcohol abuse, any advise that hasn't been said yet in the past 10 years? I don't want to be the hero of the family... I just want my family back.
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marohde | 10/30/2008 10:20 PM
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My mom has been sick with a chronic illness for 25 years. She recently got a rare, extremely difficult to treat infection in the hospital during a routine hernia repair. It was so bad they had to cut much of her stomach away to get rid of the infection. She had home health care for 6 months, and still has the infection. She got a little better for a period, but now she is not the same person anymore. I am married and don't live at home anymore. But my dad and brother, who do, are scared she is going to hurt herself. They keep finding her passed out in odd places. She stays up until 3am and walks around like a zombie doing strange things she doesn't remember the next day. She removed all of the family pictures from the walls, and simply says she was tired of looking at the same things when asked. She won't answer the phone. She never calls or emails me anymore. She is doing this with everyone. I go to check on her, and her speach is always slurred and she doesn't speak much. She rarely gets dressed and looks very weak. She has fallen several times in the middle of the night and woken my dad or my brother up. She is down to 90+ pounds because I think she is only eating around one meal a day and is falling to sleep around 3am and sleeping to 6pm or so. I believe she is abusing her ambien, her muscle relaxers and possibly her pain meds. My dad recently tried to get my mom to let him accompany her inside a doctor's appointment so he could bring these things up. My mom threatened to run away if he said anything about the ambien because she needs it to sleep, yet she denies it is an issue. My brother has asked her why he has found her passed out, and she says she "got a little off" on her muscle relaxers. Her doctor has recently prescribed anti-depressants ,and it has helped a small amount as far as her communication. She has emailed me once since, and showed up to one family event. That was huge progress. At this point, I don't know if I should give the anti-depressant more time to work (Its only been 2-3 weeks) or if we should get her other treatment. Sometimes she says she wants help, sometimes she only wants certain types of help. I'm not sure what I can do...
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vmt7315 | 10/30/2008 2:03 PM
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My husband and I have both had discussions with our son reminding him that these early choices will affect and possibly take over his young adult life. Experiementing is one thing regular use is another....Where can I find local community sponsered programs/seminars on Teen Drug Experimentation?
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amessmitty | 10/30/2008 12:36 PM
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I recently confronted my younger sister, (she's 25, I'm 27) about abusing drugs, specifically opiates (prescription drugs). She did admit she has a problem, and we have discussed a plan for her to get help. She has been dead set against me telling my parents. She lives in Philly and we live in Maine, I feel she needs a loving support system that I know we can be for her. She is currently a dating an older fellow (age3 30-31?) and I believe he is also a user. She states he "only" smokes marijuana, yet at my wedding they both acted extremely strange and I fear they are supporting eahcothers habits.
I am extremely concerned, she recently got a new job where she has health insurance, it kicks in next week. I explained to her I think she needs to be up front and honest with her doctor so together they can seek out the correct treatment for her.
I have also explained to her I believe she needs to find a mental health counselor to provide support because other than her boyfriend (whom I believe is an enabler) is her only "support" in Philly. Am I doing the right thing by giving her the benefit of the doubt that she is going to seek help and hold back telling my parents? She told me she has too much pride and cannot imagine my partents knowing...and I told her I think she should for extra support, yet she stated she would be so mad at me that she wouldn't know when she would talk to me again.
I just found out my husband and I are expecting our first child, we are thrilled, yet my heart is deeply hurting for my sister and I feel she has put a large burden on me that I am carrying. I want to support her but I feel as though this problem is too big for her to tackle on her own...please help...I love my sister and fear for her health and safety daily!
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dankindseth | 10/28/2008 10:55 PM
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I think a major thing you left out is her age. She may be doing it just to seem cool. I would hide the pills and count them. If she is searching for them you might have more of a problem. As a former addict myself I still take painkillers for fun on occassion, so I don't think it's that big of a deal. Whatever you do don't listen to some one who immediately thinks your daughter has a problem.
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